Wednesday, December 19, 2007

Child Support

A lot of people have different views on child support. Some people think that its a good idea, while other thinks that it does more harm to the father than good, because he has to give most of his earnings to the mother. But what about the mother having to give most of her earnings for most of the bills???? Nobody ever takes into consideration how much a mother has to spend on her kids. Here where I live, the minimum amount a man has to pay(if he has no job) is $40/weekly. Are you serious????? $40...Is that all that they think it takes to support a child? I went to Walmart today just to buy my 2 kids underwear, t-shirts, and socks. And I tell you no lie...It all came up to $40.27. I spent $40 in 30 minutes. With those $40, I did not get any shoes, shirts, pants, hats(it's winter time), or food ,which are all necessities. They actually think that women can take care of a child with $40. But, wait , I'm not finished....I haven't even said anything about the light bill that has to stay on for the kids, or the rent for them to have somewhere to stay, or the extra things they need for school, or the gas to take them back and forth to daycare/school, or even the daycare costs.

I'm not saying that I feel men should send a check large enough to pay all of the mothers' bills. But, I do think that if the women is gonna pay all of the bills to provide food and shelter, then the father can at least buy all of the necessities that the kids need. But that's just my opinion.

While I'm on the child support subject, this post would not be complete unless I shared with you what a wonderful present my son's father gave him for Christmas /his birthday(his bday is in December) ...Guess what it was ?????? A nice big $25 check. YAYYYYYYYYYY

I still cannot believe that he had the audacity to send that check. I know some people will say

"Well at least you are getting something"
but they don't understand that this man has money! He has enough money to pay what the judge orders him. He just chooses not to. He has all kinda of income coming in, but he does not feel that my son deserves it for some reason.

Oh Well...

I came across a post today about a Prosecuter giving deadbeat parents one last chance to pay up

"If they ignore us, we issue a warrant of arrest and we have them placed in jail. I will then request that the judge set a bond not less than the amount that is owed"


Why when things like this gets enforced, it never happens where I live???

The city I live in has something similar. If a father goes to court and does not have any money to give the mother right then and there, then he has to pay random small amounts like $55, or $1500, and they have to pay the full amount 'cash'. More than likely a girlfriend or family members pays it,then he gets bailed out, then gets missing, and then theres no way to find him to bring him back to court. I would love for my county to have this law. I am owed more than $8,000. I pray that the day comes when I'm in court with my son's father.the judge looks at him and says, "Bond set at $8,000."

Monday, December 17, 2007

Purpose

It seems like being a deadbeat dad is getting to be very popular. You not only see it in your community, but you also see celebrities engaging in this new 'trend'. I didn't start this blog to bash men, or to even only talk only about deadbeat fathers. There are deadbeat mothers out there too, but since I'm a female I might refer to the term 'deadbeat dad' a lot. I might even say 'babydaddy'. I know its a somewhat 'ghetto' term. But lets face it..its a word that going to be around, and not going anywhere. Some men are just a 'babydaddy' instead of 'husband'. Another thing I want you be be aware of is the fact that although I'm very educated, I might type something exactly how I talk when I'm around people that I'm comfortable with. I'm not going change the way I talk to get my point across. I'm going to keep it real in any way possible. That doesn't mean that this blog is going to sound like an uneducated person wrote it, but I will express how I feel, in any way that I choose.

I'm a single black female with 2 kids. I'm not only gonna write about what I go through daily being a mother and dealing with a deadbeat father., but I'm also gonna try to give any help that I can to other women in my shoes, and even men. I know that there are some men who actually take care of their kids, but get no help from the mother. I will try my best to do anything I can to help.

Tuesday, December 11, 2007

Take Care of Your Kids

This blog is for single parents who are struggling to take care of their kids because of DEADBEAT PARENTS!